Time Management for Busy Women

Time Management for Busy Women

Oh no, not another time management message. What's wrong? Don't have time for it? Exactly...the problem is not in the message, perhaps the problem is within you with struggling to implement vital information. I will give you a chance...will you give me a chance and hear me out for a few minutes? If not, thanks for visiting my site for 30 seconds and good luck to you in your life as you go right back to the same ole you getting the same ole results. For the rest, thanks for hanging in there. I believe this will be of great value if you read intently and then do something about what you learn. 

Time Management is more about Priorities than about Appointments

Have you ever realized and actually accounted for every hour of your day? Try it for one week. Keep a journal or note pad on your desk and literally every hour document what you specifically did. It will surprise you at the end of the week. Calendering and scheduling your day is not as much about the appointments and time that things begin and end. Calendaring and planning is about deciding what your priorities should be and then evaluating at the end of the day how well you did and where you can improve. The challenge for most moms (and anyone for that matter) who are also business owners is that you have no one to hold you accountable. You often choose to have yourself hold you accountable and therefore you are too gentle on yourself when you are inefficient and ineffective. So you develop some "bad habits of highly unsuccessful people".

My family decided 45 days ago to turn off our cable and not watch any more TV. At first, I freaked. How do I not end the day with some Modern family and Jimmy Fallen? But I soon realized I saved over 10-15 hours a week that I could instead read inspiring books, work my business more, have time with my family, etc.  I don't miss TV at all. Small sacrifice we are making as we start this business and make the most of it...each hour of each day!

Many of you think you are horrible with time management and that you never complete your to-do lists and that there are never enough hours in the day. But I submit that you dont have a time management issue. You work very hard each day. Your problem is that you schedule and plan 32 hours of work in a 24 hour day. No matter how efficient you are...you plan too much. Try to separate in your life the urgent from the non-urgent, the critical from the non-critical, and you will see you simply need to get rid of trying to accomplish too much of the minutia.

But Dave you just said to make the most of every hour and minute. Yes I did, I am not saying be lazier. I am saying...be smarter and stop spreading yourself so thin. It is exhausting and discouraging when you live every day of your life feeling like you never accomplish things. You say yes to everything and everyone. You are too nice and accommodating. You need to get better at saying no. You need to get better at not trying to help every single person. It is impossible. Heck, you can get so caught up in work that you neglect your family and spiritual and mental needs. May you be blessed to have a fresh outlook and take one step at the time and I promise you can get a lot of critical things in a 24 hour time frame.

Author, Dave Nabrotzky, Independent Business Owner with Mialisia. 

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Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day

You deserve respect, love, appreciation, admiration, and much, much more. But near the very top you deserve to laugh and enjoy the privilege and craziness of Motherhood. May this short song bring a smile to your face and may you know that mom's are truly the greatest and most valuable thing on earth and heaven!

A tribute to mothers everywhere...YOU ARE THE BEST!!!!

A Mother's Love

There are times when only a mother's love

Can understand our tears,

Can soothe our disappoints

And calm all of our fears.

There are times when only a mother's love

Can share the joy we feel

When something we've dreamed about

Quite suddenly is real.

There are times when only a mother's faith

Can help us on life's way

And inspire in us the confidence

We need from day to day.

For a mother's heart and a mother's faith

And a mother's steadfast love

Were fashioned by the angels

And sent from God above.

--Author Unknown

Dealing with Rejection is a Matter of Perspective

Dealing with Rejection is a Matter of Perspective

When it comes to dealing with rejection, it is all a matter of perspective. Perspective will get you far in life! In sales, I expect people to say yes. But when I get the "no's", I am reminded that I am that much closer to the next "yes"

Know the statistics of your business and industry. It is a numbers game. If the stats say that for every 100 nos the average person gets 6 to say yes. Then look at it like you need to go out and get the 100 nos in order to get the yes. With this perspective, a "no" is not as discouraging, it is motivating to know that you are that much closer to your goal. 

I love that pro baseball players understand the numbers game too but don't get discouraged. If a player goes to bat 10 times and strikes out 7 times...his batting average would be .300 and he would be making millions and millions even when he has to get 7 "nos" to get 3 to say "yes". 



When people say no...the key is not to take it personally. Women take it much more personal than guys do. I hope to change that thinking. Will you all help me change that? When I hear a "no"...I just hear a "not right now, but please try me later when I am more open minded" This perspective allows me to keep love in my heart which keeps a desire to serve them again in the future.

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How would you score in Will-Power vs Heart-Power?

We have heard many times the importance of will power, defined by Wikipedia as "the ability of a person to exert his/her will over the inhibitions of their body or self". The study of will power demonstrating this are rather ingenious. 

Here are two tips from the studies:

1. Anticipate and plan for your times of low self-control. Now that you know that self-control is a limited resource and that depleting it means less for later, you can do some anticipating and planning. For example, make sure that you’re not in the chips and cookies aisle of the grocery store after a long day at work. Don’t start on your tax return after a frustrating commute.
2. Exercise your willpower muscle to get more of it. Roy Baumeister, one of the leading researchers in this field, thinks that willpower is like a muscle. Exercising a muscle in the short-term leads to its exhaustion. In the long-term, though, exercising a muscle causes it to grow. In fact, there is some good evidence that exercising your willpower, though temporarily depleting, means that it will be stronger in the long run. So, push yourself. 

 But more important than will-power is our "heart-power". 

Heart-Power can be defined as the passion and motivation within your soul that drives one to help another and connect with them.  In sales (and in life), our success is usually proportionate with our ability to connect with others.

For all the studies and research out there on how to harness will power...I wish there were 10x the studies of how to tap into and harness the power with the human heart. It is there where we find deep spirituality. It is there where we find kindness and charity. Charity is defined as the pure love of Christ. I would argue that the Savior perfectly blended will power and heart power. He had the discipline in his mind to fast 40 days and nights...yet he also had the discipline in his heart to forgive the unforgivable and to love the unlovable.

So what can you do to tap into the power of your heart? Sure you can teach your co-workers, or even children for that matter, how to have the discipline and work hard to drive their paycheck or next promotion. But how do you teach them to have discipline in their heart to love, serve, and help others....even when it is inconvenient or doesn't serve a temporal benefit? Submit your comments and ideas below.

written by Dave Nabrotzky, Mialisia Executive National Designer  www.HookedOnMia.com

How Can Moms Best Balance Their Time To Get the Most Out of Themselves and Others

This week I had a Mialisia designer reach out and express the need for some guidance on time management. I could imagine her frustration and predicament. 

She, like many women, balance so many roles each day and often find that there simply is not enough time in the day to accomplish all that she wants to. This stirred my mind and I quickly thought of one of the best time management gurus in the world, the late Stephen R Covey. Check out this video and be thinking about how it applies to you:

SO.....when you plan your week/day/month, you must prioritize the big rocks first and then fill in the spots, (if available) with the pebbles. Don't allow the urgent things in the moment take precedence over those things that matter most.

I will cap off this time management post with a tie in from trying to have a paradigm shift in our thinking of how we execute our life. Covey refers to an “Execution Gap”. The first few minutes is humorous and I know that every dad out there who has ever coached his kid’s soccer team can relate to this clip. I also know that every mom watching on the sideline is guilty of a few uncontrollable giggles as they watch their suave and successful businessman husband completely fall apart. Sure he can manage 500 employees at the firm….but can he be effective on the soccer field with a bunch of 7 year olds?

Whether in your personal life or your career…do you ever feel like you are often running around in all directions? Sure your heart is in the right place but there just seems to be more chaos than results. Did you know:

• Only 15% of employees could identify their company's most important goals. Either there are too many, or they change too often, not clearly defined, etc.
• Does your front line know what the goals are? Do you? 
• How do you take great strategies and goals and translate them into an action plan where things actually get done at work…or more important…within the walls of your own home.
• Only 19%  of the employees researched say they feel passionate about the company’s top goals. They are not involved which = no ownership = no commitment
• We can become so distracted by urgent things that they neglect the most important things
• Goals will never be met until the goals are clear and each person knows what their specific part is. 51% say they don’t understand what they are supposed to do. 

Imagine if everyone on the team was spending their time on effective things. 

The challenge this week is to think about your big and small rocks and decide now how you will better prioritize and just trying to get it all done. 

Introduction to the Lighthouse Series...For the Strength of Women

I am excited to launch:

“The Lighthouse Series”

My goal is simple…to enrich your life, remind you of your divine inner beauty/value, and strengthen women around the world thru humor and spiritual nourishment. For you are the Lighthouses and I believe our paths have crossed for a divine purpose. We must discover what that is. 

I have invited some incredible writers and industry experts to join me in this journey. We will take the daily struggles I have heard for many years as a businessman, a Christian pastor, a marriage counselor, and now as a Mialisia Executive where I get the privilege to be in an almost entirely women industry. Yes, on the surface, I am a fish out of water. However, I know of a great Fisherman who knew best how to solve all the problems of our time. (Matthew 4:19)

So let me be very clear that this blog will not shy away from tying in spiritual principles that I have learned through my studies of the scriptures and my attempt each day to be a disciple of Christ. For every dilemma/question/hopeless situation we discuss in this forum is simply a storm encircling your ship. But I express confidence that the Savior is the perfect Lighthouse to help all of us to more stable waters and can somehow give us peace and hope in the journey at sea. After all, he not only wants to teach you how to fish...but be needs each of you to be a lighthouse for Him. 

Among the great lessons of life about overcoming depression, how to raise kids and still not go completely insane, how to balance being a mom, a wife, a taxi driver, a chef, an entrepreneur, a nurse, etc. we do want to learn lots her and be uplifted but please allow me to involve some humor into sometimes serious topics. After all, laughter is one of the best vitamins we can take in mental health prevention and treatment. 

If you find this helpful…please help be a lighthouse and not only subscribe to this blog, but share it with others thru social media. God bless you incredible women! You are incredible and I have the utmost confidence in you that with you and the Lord nothing is impossible! (Luke 1:37)

I confess that I have one minor weakness that you women don't have...I am a guy. So although I do not understand fully what it is like to be in your shoes, I consider myself empathetic and hope to be able to add a new perspective.

I admit I am not the best either at asking for directions just like your man....but I am not afraid to be candid and open and real in my opinions. I will offer some soothing hints at times but some tough love too on rare occasion. I do try to stay away from much of that because I have learned many things being around moms....the first being....you don't give yourselves enough credit and you are way too tough on yourself. So let's learn and grow in spiritual strength, mental toughness, and find ways to better tap into the greatest asset and most powerful thing in this entire world.....the heart of a mother. 

Let's enjoy this journey and know there is hope and laughter in our futures....

Copyright 2013 by author, Dave Nabrotzky, www.HookedOnMia.com